“It feels like I’m always on the verge of exploding or freaking out. Sounds, smells even the littlest thing can trigger me and I either get crazy or shut down and have to be away from everyone and everything. My life is out of control. I keep reliving things that happened and I have nightmares about all that stuff. Sometimes it’s so bad I just want to end it”.
“I’m in another abusive relationship, again. I feel ashamed and guilty for causing all of this and sometimes I hurt myself because of it. Sometimes I feel like I’m not even in my body and I have memory problems. I can’t sleep or concentrate and my head or my stomach are always hurting. I can’t control my emotions. I’m either clingy or pushing people away. It’s been like this my whole life. Even as a kid, people either hurt me or left me. I’m scared and I can’t trust anyone, especially myself”.
I am a trained EMDR therapist. EMDR is an evidence-based therapy that can help discharge the effects of trauma whether it’s caused from violence, shock or developmental trauma. Read more about it on my EMDR page.
“I feel like I don’t belong, sometimes even in the gay community. I feel like I’ve been depressed or angry for years. I’ve come out to a few people but it’s hard to find people who really want to know me. Sometimes I don’t even know myself, or like myself. My life is addictive in so many ways. I don’t know if I can open up to a therapist because I’m scared I’ll be judged if I’m honest about my life”.
“I’ve been to a therapist before and it was clear he didn’t get it or get me. I could feel his disapproval and he actually said things that shamed me. I need to know my therapist can understand my experience and not judge me”.
I am an LGBT-affirming therapist and have worked for years with the LGBT Community.
“I know I’ve got problems, but I don’t know how I could talk to a therapist about them. I’m a guy, and I’d be embarrassed if anyone knew I needed to see a shrink. They’d think I’m weak. We’re supposed to just man up and push through. Half the time I don’t even know what’s going on with me or how to say the right thing. My other half tells me I need to get help but I don’t know where to start”.
“I’m just an anxious person. I feel like my mind never shuts off. I’m always stressed out, I can’t even sleep, and my anxiety is so bad I can’t think straight. Sometimes my heart races so fast I feel like I’m going to die. I think I’m having panic attacks”.
“I feel like I’m just sad all the time and people are tired of me. Sometimes I’m not sad, I just don’t feel anything. There are days I can’t get out of bed and I’ve been missing work because of it. I don’t care about things anymore and sometimes I don’t even want to eat. I just can’t shake it”.
“I have these mood swings that are all over the place. When I’m up I’m really up, and I spend all kinds of money and do things I regret later. Other times I’m either just blah or depressed. It’s affecting everything in my life, work, relationships, my self-esteem. I don’t mean to say and do the things I do. It’s out of control”.
“I smoke pot every day, but I don’t even like it anymore and it’s not even helping, it’s actually making things worse. I know it’s a crutch but I don’t know how else to just cope with life”.
“I’m out of control. I spend half of my time looking for hook ups and having sex or watching porn. Once I start I can’t stop. I don’t even remember what it’s like to have an intimate relationship anymore. It all feels empty and makes me hate myself. But I can’t stop”.
“So now I’ve stopped drinking and I’m sober. But I still have the same brain that got me into trouble in the first place. I want to understand how I got so messed up in the first place and how to recover my life”.
These are just a few of the issues that bring people into therapy. And sometimes people seek a good therapist in order to deepen their self-awareness and understand themself better.
It’s time to seek help when something causes distress and interferes with your life, especially when it’s taking up a lot of your time and energy, when the issue causes embarrassment or makes you want to avoid others. When your quality of life is decreased or it starts to negatively affect school, work or relationships or when you start developing habits to cope with the issue, reach out for help.
Give me a call for a FREE phone consultation.
I would be glad to talk with you about how I can help.